What should be your first jewelry gift for her?
This is a question that many men have agonized over, including yours truly. I see it in the jewelry store more times than I can count. Is there a clear cut answer? Of course not. There are so many factors such as length of the relationship, age, budget…and so on. There are a few guidelines that I will list, but remember…it’s coming from you and only you can give her a gift that says what you want to say.
1. Number one jewelry item to stay away from as a first gift is any type of ring. I don’t believe that there is one woman out there that has received a small ring box as a gift that didn’t think…engagement ring. Now keep in mind, especially if you have been together for a few years, her heightened anticipation, and following disappointment, really isn’t healthy for your relationship. On the other hand, if you’ve been together for a shorter period of time, she could also be dreading to open the box if she isn’t ready. Both situations can be uncomfortable. Why create all this chaos when all you want to do is show her how much you care about her. I personally say “don’t do it”.
2. How about a watch? Well this is totally about what you want to say. There isn’t a lot of emotional attachment to a watch. I mean, you could even give your mom a watch. Did she ask you for a watch? That changes things slightly but usually this makes a good second or third gift.
3. I have been asked, “Can I return it if she doesn’t like it?” Of course the answer is yes, but I haven’t seen many first gifts ever get returned. Normally there is a lot of sentimentality placed on this gift, one she will remember and talk about to her friends and family. She also could be thinking “If I say I don’t like it, will he ever buy me another piece of jewelry?” You just don’t know. In summary, be confident in your choice.
4. What does make a good jewelry gift? Well, diamonds are a girl’s best friend. Diamond earrings, necklaces and bracelets make great first gifts. It doesn’t have to be lavish. It can be just a simple solitaire necklace that fits the bill. Do you know her birthday? A birthstone necklace or earrings make another great gift and she knows you took the trouble to learn her birthstone. This is something we can obviously help you with at the store.
This was meant to help relieve the anguish many of you go through. Let me tell you I have learned the hard way myself. The first gift I gave to my wife when we were dating was an Irish claddaugh ring. I had to backpedal and say it wasn’t an engagement ring, just an item from the heart. In retrospect, not a great idea.
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